Darryl asks me a question in regards to my last blog

so Ron,
how would you define marriage? like if you were engaged to a girl could you and her just make a promise before the two of you and God and then call yourselves married and have sex then? does a couple have to sign the marriage certificate before they are officially allowed to have sex? or when you have sex does that make you married to the person you had sex with?
the question isn’t just should you have sex before you’re married…because the issue is, what does it mean to be married? and what does sex have to do with it? what was sex intended for?

Tough questions indeed; If I was to define marriage I would say it is a community consisting of a master, a mistress and two slaves, making in all, two. This meaning a master (man) the mistress (woman) and two slaves (both participants serving one another).

I’m talking marriage here (not common-law or same sex, just your typical man and a woman marriage). Let’s strip down all the outside stuff (signing documents, having a wedding, having sex) and get to the meat and potatoes.
A man and a woman come together and commonly agree that they want to spend their life together. This can not be a mere lip service but a feeling that represents those words spoken at the alter “through sickness and in health.”

The “official” marriage would be when your relationship is socially approved and legally acknowledged with your country. But the marriage started long before that. When your thoughts and feelings start to be changed in order to appeal, satisfy or unionize with your partner, a marriage is already in the works. When you get up in the morning, have an offer to be unfaithful or mistreat your partner and choose not to because of this feeling that lies in you; a marriage is forming.

A couple that has become emotionally, sexually, and economically tied would in my eyes be a “married.”

A lot of traditional people (may be right, may be wrong) say that when a person lies down sexually with another, they are, married; but I don’t see it.