A Family is defined as consisting of a householder where one or more other persons living in the same household are related to the householder by birth, marriage, or adoption.

I have a lot of friends with very different family arrangements. Some have parents, single parents, deceased, separated, re-married, and re-united. Some people have good rapport and others do not.

I have many friends who are successful at hiding behind family. Which, I am not saying is all that bad, while growing up we all make mistakes that we wish would stay “in-house” but what about if you are lacking that family surrounding of protection? All those times you got into trouble, I bet it was nice that your family bail you out.

I have friends that complain about their family setup. Complaints like “my family is too poor, they didn’t pay for school, they didn’t buy me a car, their too rich, they don’t talk enough, they talk too much, they care too much and they don’t care enough.

We all have family, their not perfect. I get that.

I have a friend who hasn’t had a “family” for most of his adolescent life. I couldn’t imagine the kind of person I would have developed into if I didn’t have the guidance of my parents. Could you imagine yourself without family?

This friend I have is a good friend to me. Over the years allot of things have happened, some good and some bad. The bad things have caused some to turn their back on him, which, is their call and I respect that. What I don’t respect is when I am asked to do the same. When people who have been privileged with cars, homes, allowance, food and rent free living turn to me and say “don’t help.”

Why is looking out for those who aren’t as privileged as us family folk such a bad thing? Is it so insane to allow people into our lives that may/could/are a burden?
What is the point of “getting ahead” if you are the only person there?
Why are we so afraid to get our hands dirty and help others? Why are we so afraid to be burdened with our funds, our homes and our kitchen?

What makes me so much better than the poor smuck with nothing – my job?

What a bunch of shit.

We live in a world of the haves and have nots and it’s a shame. It’s a shame because while we are out trying to make something of ourselves we actually miss out on the things that make us a somebody. The world went and got itself in a big hurry and it doesn’t have time for those who are not as fortunate.